It's Not Fair!

The kids love to use the phrase, it's not fair. Who am I kidding? I like to use the phrase, it's not fair. Yet where does it get me? Generally speaking, all it gets me is a thought trip that turns me into a victim of circumstances. That makes life feel completely out of control. Or, if I don't become a victim, I might become a control freak. If life won't be fair, I will make it fair by trying to control everything in my world.

Somehow, neither approach is really useful on this journey we call life. As often happens, we need to find a balance. In answer to the phrase, it's not fair, the first thing to acknowledge is that it's a true statement. No matter how hard we try, life will never be completely fair.

Let's consider a different approach. Let's each as individuals do our best to make our own world as fair as we can in as far as it depends on us. What can we control in our world? Only ourselves. Kids know they can't control anyone stronger than themselves. Adults sometimes take a while but eventually realize they cannot control their children or anyone else in their lives. So, begin with self. Take a hard look at the person in the mirror without playing, "pass the buck," or, "it's entirely on me." Figure out what to hold on to and what to let go of and move forward from there.

We're in this together so let's support one another.